the man date
during the time that I allot myself before paper writing (checking email, reading news, catching up on friends' blogs, et cetera), I came across this article on nyt online. as I blog, the article is the second most emailed article and I'm not surprised in the slightest. (I am a bit surprised that the most emailed article is about the labeling of farm bred salmon as wild. new yorkers do love their fish, but still...)
I've never thought much about straight male interaction; I guess I've not really had much reason to do so. I think that I might have much to say on this topic, but I'm going to let it roll around in my head a bit and post about it later. now, I've got to get to the paper.
have a read and enjoy. let me know what you think. (marci, I know you'll have something to say.)
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/04/10/fashion/10date.html?oref=login
posted by jennifer @ 2:46 PM
2 Comments:
yep, i do have a comment: why do men make everything so difficult? why do men use "this makes me feel uncomfortable" as their excuse not to participate in healthy/productive/interesting behavior? that's why seinfeld and even larry david always grated on my nerves. yes, on one hand it's funny to see people squirming in discomfort. but in real life, it's just an excuse to be lazy. just frickin' communicate already! suck it up, babies! there needs to be more man-dating. men need to suck it up and get over their crippling self-consciousness and just do it. who cares if people think you're gay? i can think of worse things...like having people think you're a flippin neanderthal who doesn't know how to communicate with either sex...and you proving them right.
oh, and one more thing, i really resent that the writer of this article used the word "encroach" to describe how women have made progress towards equal rights. encroach has such negative connotations. (is it possible the writer is using it facetiously?) if not, how is it that women are "encroaching" on mens' social spheres? the use of "encroach" usually entails a power struggle of some sort--with the powerful encroaching into the territory of the powerless. using it to describe womens' struggle for equal rights, equal pay, and equal say? i don't buy it.
Hmmm, quite interesting.
I've seen and observed men (that appear to be straight) dining togetherin fine restaurants , but I've always thought it was an "adult" thing to do since most of them seem to around upper 30s +.
I guess...I was wrong?????
But the insecure comments regarding "the man date" are usually coming from the post-collegiate male. So to call them adults? On second thought...
Oh, a comment on the use of "encroaching," I do agree with M that it does carry a sinister tone on how it is used. It particularly surprises me that the author is a woman...
P.S. Yes, luvs, I've returned to blogger. I was growing weary of Livejournal.
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